My mother – two year death Anniversary
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  Posted May 6th, 2012 by Zdenko  in Family | 14 comments

Zdenka Kahlina, April 30, 1924 – May 9, 2010

Story by: Zdenko Kahlina

My mother passed away two years ago – on Mothers Day! It is hard to believe two years have gone by already. There is not one day that passed I did not think about her. It has definitely been a very difficult two years for me and my family. We still talk about her and her life at our family gathering. Here is what I wrote about her last year:

Weep not for me that I have died; rejoice instead that I have lived!

My mother passed away - on Mothers Day! She quietly passed away at the home for elderly people „DOM TOLIĆ BRADAŠEVIĆ“ in Zagreb (Croatia), at the age of eighty-six. After a long illness, she succumbed to cancer after fighting it for more than 15 years. I think my mother had a very fruitful and happy life and was the most significant inspiration in my life.

Zdenka was born in Zagreb and lived all her life in her beloved city. She was married to our father, Petar Kahlina for a remarkable 44 years until 1988, when our father died due to a terminal illness. However difficult time of her life it was, she never remarried but not to say that she was lonely. She lived a very active life and for years was involved with the senior citizens organization where she had a large circle of friends and acquaintances.  She also visited her sons in Edmonton on more than one occasion and our families reunited with her in Zagreb every two years regularly.

Our mother passed away peacefully on Sunday, May 9th, 2010, her smile leaving a glow in her room at „DOM TOLIĆ BRADAŠEVIĆ“, place for elderly people near Zagreb, where she had lived the very last year of her life.
 
With the following pictures I want to celebrate her life and remember her for all the good things she did. She will be forever remembered by her children, Zdenko and Marijan and their spouses Vera and Sandy, who all live in Edmonton, Canada. She will remain in the hearts of her five grand children Neven, Sanja, Robyn, Christina and Jeffrey.

Our families are thankful to all her caregivers at „DOM TOLIĆ BRADAŠEVIĆ“in Croatia and doctors and nurses at the Holy Spirit Hospital in Zagreb. We are forever indebted and want to give special thanks to Damir and Marija, her nephew and his wife,  for all their kindness, love, care and attention they provided to our mother over the last number of years, since her closest family was out of reach living such huge distances away.

Zdenko and Marijan with mom 
 
2009: Grand children Sanja and Neven with grandma 
 
2009: Family with mom in her room. 
 
2009: Grand children Christina and Sanja with grandma 
 
2009: Sandy, Marijan’s partner with mom 
 
2009: Vera with mom 
 
2007: Zdenko with mom 
 
2007: Zdenka with her older son Marijan 
2007: Vera and Zdenko with mom
 
2005: Zdenko with his mother and cousin Damir

Today My Mother Died

© Sania Harris

Today my mother died
Silently without a sign
No inkling about her sadness
Even though we filled her with madness
Never being a burden for us
Instead giving us all a bless

Today my mother died
The one to whom I always lied
Screaming at her for her calmness
Creating all kind of fuss
Not thinking about her loneliness
Putting her in deep distress

Today my mother died
Thinking about her fate, I sighed
The times I went away
The times I never looked back
The pains she felt astray
The pains she felt setback

Today my mother died
I recalled her past and cried

 
1995: Zdenka with twin brother Zvonko
 
1943: Zdenka with her husband Petar Kahlina
 
1940: Zdenka with her husband Petar Kahlina
 
Twins Zdenka and Zvonko in 1939
 
Family Leskovar 1939: Zvonko, mother Gustika, Zdenka and their father Vilim.
 
Twins Zdenka and Zvonko in 1934 with their father Vilim
 
Twins in 1934: Zdenka and Zvonko
 
Twins in 1924: Zdenka and Zvonko
 Family Leskovar in 1929

Until we meet again mother, rest in peace. We love you.

Your son Zdenko

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14 comments to “My mother – two year death Anniversary”

  1. Comment by Srebrenka:

    Dragi Zdenko, povodom smrti tvoje mame Zdenke molim te primi moje i Hankovo iskreno i duboko saucesce.
    Pozdrav, Srebra i Hank.

    Takoder izrazavamo saucesce Veri,Sanji ,Nevenu i Samanti.

  2. Comment by Zdenka:

    Primite nase iskreno saucesce….

    Yordi, Pascal, Eric i Zdenka

  3. Comment by Helena:

    My sincere condolences,
    You mom looked like a wonderful person, full of love and life. She will be missed.

    Helena

  4. Comment by Cherie:

    Hello Zdenko,
    I heard the sad news yesterday about Baka. Brought instant tears to my eyes. I want to send my condolences on your loss. She was a wonderful, loving woman who remains in the hearts of many. I think of you & Vera often but will especially be thinking of you both, along with your family, on Saturday when you all come together to celebrate your wonderful mother & her life.
    Cherie
    xo

  5. Comment by Jan laughlin Humphrey:

    Dear Zdenko, Terry and I send you our sincere condolences. We knew your Mom was very ill and going down hill but when the final time comes, you are still shocked. Must be difficult with most of your family so far away. We are thinking of you, Vera and kids. Our sympathy to you. Remember, someone once loved is never forgotten…

  6. Comment by Vlasta:

    Dragi bratic, primi nase iskreno saucesce.
    Neka je zatvorila svoje oci, da se vise ne muci, jer znala je da se priblizava kraj.
    Nije lako, iako se zna da je ovako najbolje za nju, kada je vec bilo takvo stanje.
    Ostaje svejedno tuga i pitanje zivota, zasto?

    sestricna Vlasta

  7. Comment by John:

    I know your mom wants to stay with the angels when she has a happpiness moment on mothers day!
    I wish you stay strong along with your family together, and would like to pass my condolences to you & your family.
    I hope to see you rather sooner than later, when you have got over your sorrow.

    Stay strong! Your friend John Kim.

  8. Comment by Mirjana:

    Zdenko, ti i cijela tvoja obitelj primite nasu saucest povodom smrti tvoje majke. Nase misli su sa vama.

    Mirjana i Tihomir Kantolic!

  9. Comment by Roman:

    Dragi Zdenko:
    Porocitao sa na Zdenko’s Corner tuznu vjest da Ti je umrla mama.
    Cathy i ja saljemo Tebi , bratu i cijeloj familiji nasu iskrenu sucut.

    Neka joj je lagana zemljica.
    Pozdrav,
    Roman + Cathy Porenta

  10. Comment by Bojan:

    Zdenko, iskreno sožalje, nekako nam ide sve zajedno u životu. Meni je majka umrla prošle godine u maju.
    Tako treba shvatit život, dokle smo živi treba živeti.
    Bojan Ropret

  11. Comment by Ljiljana:

    Hi Zdenko!

    I am wondering how are you and rest of the family doing. I know is hard you only have one mom but it is the memories what keep us going on she had a good life and things do have to come to the end at least she is not suffering .
    I read your blog about your mom and it was very nice out on you brought tears to my eyes ….. Hope you are keep going and see you this summer, say hi to Vera miss you both ,ljiljana

  12. Comment by Nikica, za SUH:

    Oproštaj od Zdenkice

    Tužni smo jer nas je 9.5.2010. godine napustila naša draga ZDENKA KAHLINA, koju smo od milja zvali ZDENKICA.

    U ime SINDIKATA UMIROVLJENIKA “CENTAR” (SUH) u Zagrebu, Radnički Dol br. 1, i u svoje osobno ime, želim se od nje oprostiti sa nekoliko rečenica.

    Naša draga Zdenkica članica je našeg sindikata od samoga početka, prije desetak godina. Iako narušenoga zdravlja, nikada se nije žalila da joj je teško. Aktivno se uključivala u akcije koje je naš SUH organizirao, kako zajedničke feste, tako i gradske manifestacije, kao što su na primjer obilježavanje dana starijih osoba, razne ankete i slično.

    Iznad svega voljela je izlete, koje smo vrlo često organizirali, a ne sjećam se da je sa kojeg izleta naša Zdenkica izostala!! Putem smo se smijali, pjevali, veselili se, a često puta smo imali organiziranu muziku. Zdenkica je bila spremna na ples unatoć svom zdravstvenom stanju.

    Imam potrebu navesti tek nekoliko lijepih prigoda sa zajedničkih izleta:

    Prije nekoliko godina bili smo na izletu na Zavižanu, a naš cilj bila je visinska kota na 1,644 metara. Zdenkica se skupa sa nama po planinarskim stazama popela do mjesta, gdje je na stijeni napisano, da smo bili na toj visini. Puna sreće uskliknula je: “Slikajte me i napravite više fotografija da pošaljem mojoj djeci u Kanadu, neka vide da sam im još u snazi!”.

    Na jednom izletu slučajno se našao sin Marijan, pa je majka presretna zaplesala sa svojim sinom, a mi smo zadivljeno gledali, pjevali i pljeskali im!

    Posebno bi evocirala uspomenu na zadnji Zdenkičin rodendan koji smo slavili na Sljemenu, kada je bila nevjerojatno razdragana i vesela.

    Posebno je bila uzbudena kada nam je rekla da očekuje unukovo vjenčanje, te se hvalila poslije toga kako je sve bilo lijepo!

    Ipak vidno narušenoga zdravlja, djeca su ju smjestila u dom za starije osobe, gdje je za vrijeme kad smo ju posjećivali, pričala da je zadovoljna, no godine i zdravlje učinile su svoje. Zdenkica nas je napustila, ali samo tjelesno. Dok stojimo nad njenim zemnim ostacima tužni i sa suzama u očima, dajemo ti draga naša ZDENKICA obečanje, da ćeš ostati u našim srcima i mislima, dok se ne nađemo na nekom sretnijem mjestu!

    Tvojim sinovima, snahama, unucima, ostaloj rodbini i prijateljima naša iskrena sućut.

    Za tvoj SUH Centar, Nikica.

  13. Comment by Mr. Richard:

    Good day!

    Well this is my first ever post on the internet.
    Have been glued to this website for the past 2 days. Had got myself registered long back but never had the time or knew the value of the data available on this website.
    Couple of days back I had some free time, so I logged in to check this website and that’s it… I have not moved out since then…
    Sorry about your mother… I lost mine too, several years ago.
    Take care. Richard.

  14. Comment by Mirko:

    Dozvolite mi da primijetim kako je pravo olaksanje pronaci nekoga na interentu u ovom online svijetu, ko zaista zna ono cime se bavi. Vasi prikazi su sjajni i vi odista znate iznijeti i osvijetliti tu temu. Mnogo ljudi bi trebalo citati vase blogove i da prati sve vasu publikacije. Stvarno mi je potpuno jasno zasto drzite popularnost u Zagrebu. Samo tak nastavite.
    Vas vijerni posjetitelj…
    P.S. Vec sam vas podijelio sa poznanicima na Facebooku. Sve najbolje!

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